i know when i look in the mirror i am utterly repulsed by what i see, the short eyeslashes, spots, blackheads, frizzy hair, fat. my eyebrows. I literally hate how i look, i often look in the mirror and think "do i really look like that?" or even "why does my mirror hate me so much?"
I normally take a ig heavy sigh and head out the door, feeeling rather unconfident. I dont think i've ever looked at myself and thought WOW. i'm something special.
It makes me laugh when people are like "its all about personality" But lets be honest. in our soceity we wouldnt date the hunchback of notredarme. they have to have realitive good looks, and appeal to us. I look at everyone around me and i think - wow your so beautiful! what happened to me? why am i cursed like this.
People are always telling me how pretty i am and i never believe them i think i'm a troll.
So Really what i often wonder is why people say it isnt all about looks? Its kind of a half and half scenario. You cant get a guy without looks and a great personality to match. I dont think i have either, but perhaps i'm just insecure.
So what i often wonder is mirror? friend or foe? i mean no matter how long we spend looking in the mirror it never looks "right" so why do we bother?
It's really not about looks all the time, a personality to me is attractive in some sense and of course you are quite right about dating someone who has a resembalance of the 'Hunchback of Notredarme' but let's be honest he is quite mythical himself, and everyone is beautiful in their own ways, even the Hunchback himself he was beautiful inside. I think that people have different attractions towards people - looks or personality, some people are overly obsessed with looks and with this are extrememly shallow, why not go for personality - surely you want someone who makes you feel special, is humourous perhaps etc? You don't want a boring partner who looks absolutely gorgeous... I don't find that attractive at all
ReplyDeletei agree, i do tend to go for personality but its always hard as when you dont think your a "looker" then you are always scared your personality will fail you and people willl go off you. Welll i know thats what i think anyway <3!
ReplyDeleteSo you're saying someone "ugly" would never be able to have a relationship? Because society wouldn't allow it? Well if that's the case, screw society. Honestly.
ReplyDeleteThis reminds me of that poem we read in English- that one by Shakespear where he talks about all the flaws in the woman, but he loves her anyway. She's ugly and clumsy and her hairs like wires, but it doesn't matter to him, because he loves her anyway. Remember what I said earlier? Your imperfections make you beautiful. And if the person can't see past the imperfections, they're not worth it. And if they can't love you for your personality, they're not worth it either.
Why do I say looks don't matter? Alot of reasons. But I'll tell you this- If I was offered surgery to make me the most beautiful woman in the world, I wouldn't accept it, because it wouldn't be me. Me is all I can be.
Emma. I'm not saying that at all. Your beautiful anyway so it doesnt even matter. Everyone finds different things beautiful and perfect. But i'm saying how we SEE ourselves. and that some may see us as ugly in fact the majority probably do, but theres that special someone out there who things we are utterly perfect and the most gorgeous thing in existance. And the point i'm trying to make is not that "ugly" people cant have a relationship, because no ones ugly. I'm simply saying how we view ourselves in a negative light most of the time and it lowers our confidence.
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